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11月26日 First comes love then comes... ...marriage.
Having not yet reached that stage in my life (and being nowhere near ready to make such a HUGE decision), it would be unfair of me to try to write an educated opinion about what marriage is really about. So instead, I have decided to write about the impact of young marriage as this is an issue that has come up frequently with people around my own age.
But first, let me ask you something. Do you think it's unjust to say that people who decide to marry between the ages of 15 and 23 are making an irrational decision that will negatively affect them for the rest of their lives together? That they take the concept of marriage too lightly? That because they are so young that they are somehow blinded towards what they're really "rushing" themselves into? That they don't know who they are yet, therefore their daily power struggles with themselves will majorly conflict with their marriage in the long run? And in turn, a path to divorce will ensue?
To me, this seems like a possibility however I do believe that it's a misconception that young people lack a sense of identity when taking on a huge step such as this. They may not have had the time required to fulfill life's numerous experiences, achievements and promises th
I mean, take me for instance. I'm only 20, I'm single, a full-time student and yes, I still live at home. And although for the most part I know who I am, I also know I am nowhere ready to make such a major commitment as marriage at this time. There are still at lot of "firsts" for me to take on such as a first car, first apartment, first credit card, first university degree, first "real job"... If I already find it challenging to keep up with myself in everything I do, how on earth could I possibly be at ease with keeping up with someone else on a daily basis? Only after I work more independly for a few years and I finally find myself in a longterm, loving relationship will I find out how the real world works and then maybe, just maybe will my feelings change. But right now, there is still a platform waiting for me to build. The same one I had said one had to build on first in order to sustain themselves and develop the right mind set to make their future marriage successful.
One thing I constantly tell myself when I am tempted to act on impulse that will perhaps help you from doing something you might later regret: ALWAYS remember what is most important to you and don't allow anyone to influence your decisions. It's not to say you are unreasonably stubborn but you must ALWAYS do what you feel in your heart and head are the right thing for you to do. Once the feeling that resides in your heart matches with what you think in your head, there is no way you cannot feel 100% sure you are making the right decision. It's only when we naturally have doubt without any explanation or reason that it's wise to think about what impact a decision such as marriage will have on us for the rest of our lives.
Marriage may be something that is taken lightly these days but it doesn't have to be that way. You have the power to make that slight difference that will save your future today! :)
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